Male chastity training can seem absolutely frustrating in the beginning and you might be wondering what convinced you to do this.
Don’t worry, we all go through that. It isn’t easy to learn how to control your orgasm and it is even more difficult sometimes to be denied the pleasure of being able to cum. And for us women it can be even harder to “enforce” the rules you’ve begged us to make for you.
Still, if you’ve decided to practice male chastity, then you should already know it isn’t going to be easy.
There are techniques and training involved which you must adhere to, if you want to get the most and the best out of it.
The first and foremost thing to remember is that you should always proceed slowly. You cannot just think you’ll lock yourself in a chastity device and then forget about it for the next year or two.
So ease into orgasm denial. Go a few days in a chastity device and get adjusted to the feel of it on.
Also, you must mentally adjust to not being able to cum. Perhaps you’re used to masturbating or having sex with your Beloved every night and now, suddenly, you’re not permitted to cum.
It’s important to realise that all your fantasies about male chastity and orgasm denial over these many years have probably always culminated in your masturbating yourself to orgasm. And that simply is NOT going to be permitted any more.
That’s a big change. So ease into this slowly and give yourself, and your Beloved, time to adjust.
Next, choose the right device. If you have a chastity device you can’t stand to be in, get another one. They’re not all made the same, so don’t expect them to be one size fits all in the comfort zone. Make sure yours is on properly and it’s comfortable. Yes, this can prove to be expensive, but you do tend to get what you pay for and once you get the right device… well, then you’re in for a real treat. Just remember the old saying… be careful what you wish for.
Now, give your key over to your beloved.
Because your first act of training is trust. You and your partner must trust each other in order to build your relationship and embrace male chastity to the fullest. Not only are you practicing trust, you’re also training yourself to be a better partner to her.
You want to be sensitive to her needs and desires as well as rebuilding the emotional bond you two once had.
So hand over your key with trust.
Also, learn to pleasure her. Your partner is more than likely new at male chastity also and doesn’t know what to expect from all of this, so advise her that you want to be a better man for her.
Talk to her in a non-sexual setting. Get to know what she needs from you. It could be anything from helping around the house, to being more emotionally available, to better foreplay in the bedroom.
Whatever she needs is what you want to provide. Let her train you by telling you and you practice by showing her you are able and willing and genuinely desire to be all of those things for her.
Finally, learn that mistakes really are okay.
If you and your beloved are caught up in the moment and the chastity device comes off for some fantastic lovemaking, it’s okay.
This happens to all of us, especially in the beginning. You’ll just have to be more resolute later and not give in to your temptations as easily. Train yourself to only want to please her. Let her train you how to do that.
And the best training obviously begins where you’ve started now: by informing yourself.